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On friday March 20th it was his birthday and he went out with his friends and drank and partied, the next morning he told me he felt very sick. We thought it was just a hangover, but no matter what he ate or anything it didn’t make him feel better and to me he seemed a bit upset, but we had our friends with us so couldn’t talk.
He does smoke marijuana and drink, but does no other drugs. After he was sick all day, he tried to smoke to make his tummy feel better & it just made him feel worse. After everyone had left he started freaking out and he told me, he’d been feeling paranoid all day that his friend were conspiring against him. I know that medically this would be called delusions.
He’s a normal happy person usually, very in control of things, but he lost it. He was crying and I stayed with him and loved him. It lasted like this until tuesday. It was actually very healing, he hasn’t had a job in over a year, and told me how sorry he was. We’ve been dating almost 3 years and he was panicked he could loose me and then realized how much he loved me and wants to spend his life with me. He really turned over a new leaf, on tuesday, everything was starting to look better.
He finally was able to open up and while I was in class he talked to my mom and told her everything that had happened. He started feeling way better and wanted to call his family and friends to tell them all these things. He wasn’t completely better yet, so I suppose he shouldn’t have. So he called his mom and was telling her and she sounded fine until he mention the fact that he decided to spend his life with me. I’m 20 and he’s 22, we just want a long engagement, we want to wait til we get our lives together to finally tie the knot, it was just an engagement. But I heard her freak and ask him where he was and told him she was coming RIGHT over.
Once she got there, she took him aside and I don’t know what they were talking about, all I know is he was fine and happy until he talked to his mom. Once they were over, she came and told me she thought he needed medical help, God I thought "ok yea we’ll go to the doctor in the morning and get tests, find a therapist…" But god I had no idea, I had no idea. Next thing I know she says we have to go to the E.R. RIGHT now. She’s a really intimidating woman, I had just wanted to get him help for a while I guess, so I didn’t think it through. I didn’t…
We get there and she is constantly trying to take him away from me and just take care of him herself. But he wanted me, and only me to comfort him. I could see how upset that made his mom, I could see it every time he took his hand out of hers and reached for mine. He hates getting his blood drawn and when they went to stick that in him he freaked and tightened up, he was scared, I could see he was just scared, this is NOT the way the treatment should have gone.
So we got the tests and then we waited until 2am 4 hours longer than we were told we’d have to wait for the psych to get here and give an evaluation. He was asleep when she got there and barely waking up she stuck her head in the room "Can you talk?" my boy said he was just waking up, she immediately left and I heard her outside saying "well that was easy, we’ll call the ambulance to take him to another hospital to stay the night." I tried to wake him up to talk to them, but it didn’t matter they had made there decision.
So he has a 72 hour hold right now at this behavioral health place and every time I talk to him he tells me how scared he is. They gave him a bad drug that made him freak and when they tried to give him drugs the day after he refused and they held him down and tranquilized him. I hope he gets out of this hold today, but can anybody tell me what happens in this places and what he might have????
He smokes almost everyday and has for like a year + he drank every night for about 9 days straight before this happened, I researched psychosis and found that there is also substance-induced psychosis that he might have, but what else could he have?
And HOW can I get him out of there? I know they can only keep him if they think he’s a danger to himself and others… he’s not and he told them in the ER he wasn’t suicidal…
What can I DO!?!?!
clarify this first please,,, when you say he smokes you mean he smokes pot, right…cause we don’t know smoking as that we usually think when a person smokes it means cigerettes…so what is he smoking & if you mean pot I suggest you are clear about that for now on…I will check back once to see the answer to that cause that makes all the difference in my answer.EDIT: I disagree with the person who told you to camp out, you will be seen as a problem if you do that…also I disagree with the person who told you to find out if he is on other drugs,,,people on other drugs don’t admit to it so easily. part of that is lying…it sounds like you to have a great relationship & are both caring & intellegent people. You are of a ver clear mind….If he is smoking pot everyday he is a drug addict. I know he might be the most wonderful person in the world but he has to do what others addicts do & go through recovery to stop using. Even if he is using alcohol that is a drug too. So he has got to learn how to deal with his feelings & not bottle them up as he has been doing before. You have to get on your own path so you can learn to cope with it all. Right now you lession is going to be in patience. His mother might have her own issues. But to think of her son getting married after the stress of being sick may have made her crazy. Even though he didn’t elope. The thought scared her. So don’t take it personally she is having a hard time right now too. I agree with Scareface (below). hopefully he will recover after he gets out & will be fine. I hope they don’t put him on meds.
no one is going to read all that
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i recommend that you call one of your friends round to stay the night (same sex as you obviously) just sit and have a nice chat with them while having something that you enjoy to drink (i dont recommend alcohol as it can get you into a bad situation) also make sure you get plenty of sleep it will always help
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First of all do you have any legal rights with him ie are you common law, been living together for whatever your state recognizes as legal otherwise I am afraid his mother may be the only one who has any standing as far as the hospital is concerned. Try to camp out and corner what ever physician has taken responsibility and talk to them, or wait until he is finally released and stay far away from mom.
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No idea, the mom sounds like a whack job.
He sounds like he has some kind of mental illness, chemically induced or not. People get like they when they take hard drugs and go on a bender, but he really needs a job. It seems odd that he can smoke weed everyday and drink for a week and a half straight and be unemployed, are you sure he doesn’t do more than weed?
Tell him to do whatever the doctors say, if you freak out or refuse they will hold you longer.
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I knew a guy in highschool that went on god knows what and flipped out at school, they threw him into the looney bin for a few months because he wouldnt cooperate.
i think they have to keep him on a 72 hour hold but then should let him go, i dont know whats wrong with him but it sure sounds like the symptoms of being on meth, talk to him and tell him to be honest with you im pretty sure he is doing more then weed and alcohol
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clarify this first please,,, when you say he smokes you mean he smokes pot, right…cause we don’t know smoking as that we usually think when a person smokes it means cigerettes…so what is he smoking & if you mean pot I suggest you are clear about that for now on…I will check back once to see the answer to that cause that makes all the difference in my answer.EDIT: I disagree with the person who told you to camp out, you will be seen as a problem if you do that…also I disagree with the person who told you to find out if he is on other drugs,,,people on other drugs don’t admit to it so easily. part of that is lying…it sounds like you to have a great relationship & are both caring & intellegent people. You are of a ver clear mind….If he is smoking pot everyday he is a drug addict. I know he might be the most wonderful person in the world but he has to do what others addicts do & go through recovery to stop using. Even if he is using alcohol that is a drug too. So he has got to learn how to deal with his feelings & not bottle them up as he has been doing before. You have to get on your own path so you can learn to cope with it all. Right now you lession is going to be in patience. His mother might have her own issues. But to think of her son getting married after the stress of being sick may have made her crazy. Even though he didn’t elope. The thought scared her. So don’t take it personally she is having a hard time right now too. I agree with Scareface (below). hopefully he will recover after he gets out & will be fine. I hope they don’t put him on meds.
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sometimes people who drink a lot. And smoke marijuana. Their bodies get sick of all the things hes putting into his system. So the body says "thats Enough!" If it is related to the Alcohal, and you said he was out partyen all night? Then he should get over it. Sometimes the body just needs a break u know. I didn’t read the whole thing but, now marijuana kills your brain cells right. It can make you see things. If he smoked way to much you can get freally sick. So IDK just wait, be patient and see how thuings turn out. Im really sorry.
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There is nothing you can do. His mother has all the rights to decide for him, you are not family. If he is deemed unable to make his own sound decisions then it goes to his parents to make them for him. Sorry girl, but you will just have to wait it out. Good luck to you both.
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? Really all you can do is wait until he is released. If he goes along with the treatment, he will get out sooner, than if he fights them about it. It may be substance-induced psychosis, which he does need a lot of time an patients to get past. Once out he really needs to stay away from ALL drugs and alcohol, you need to encourage this without seeming over-bearing. If friends are doing this drugs and drinking a lot, you should warn them to stay away awhile, that he is really needing some time to heal and get past this. Surround yourself (and him) with positive people, that don’t need to be altered by a chemical to have fun, or escape reality. Good luck, oh and try to make friends with mom, make sure she understand you want him better too, and are going to do your very best to make sure he stays clean when he gets out.
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Well its a touchy subject but I would not think everyone is out to hurt him or conspire against him or you either. Maybe there are things you dont know about him that are sort of family secrets he might be ashamed to tell you right now. There is way to much it could be to give any good help to you, right down to way over-drinking which can last for days, I know this for a fact and also arise some weird line of questioning. Hopefully you know the treatment center he is in and have faith in it. That will tell you if he is in good hands, if so than maybe he should stay until they agree to release him, which you can visit him while there. Also seems like a good time to get close to his mother and family and maybe your chances of finding out something there will be greater if not than just bonding time. Your right about springing him from the hospital except you can’t do nothing only him, they can’t keep him except for those reasons you mentioned and with that known maybe you have your answer. Just stay supportive of him and his family no one is out to do anyone any harm.
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