Comments on: Please, my fiance has been hospitilized, I know this is long, but please help me, give me your opinion?

By: wwhol

wwhol — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:35:59 +0000

Well its a touchy subject but I would not think everyone is out to hurt him or conspire against him or you either. Maybe there are things you dont know about him that are sort of family secrets he might be ashamed to tell you right now. There is way to much it could be to give any good help to you, right down to way over-drinking which can last for days, I know this for a fact and also arise some weird line of questioning. Hopefully you know the treatment center he is in and have faith in it. That will tell you if he is in good hands, if so than maybe he should stay until they agree to release him, which you can visit him while there. Also seems like a good time to get close to his mother and family and maybe your chances of finding out something there will be greater if not than just bonding time. Your right about springing him from the hospital except you can't do nothing only him, they can't keep him except for those reasons you mentioned and with that known maybe you have your answer. Just stay supportive of him and his family no one is out to do anyone any harm.
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By: magnolia_76

magnolia_76 — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:58:59 +0000

? Really all you can do is wait until he is released. If he goes along with the treatment, he will get out sooner, than if he fights them about it. It may be substance-induced psychosis, which he does need a lot of time an patients to get past. Once out he really needs to stay away from ALL drugs and alcohol, you need to encourage this without seeming over-bearing. If friends are doing this drugs and drinking a lot, you should warn them to stay away awhile, that he is really needing some time to heal and get past this. Surround yourself (and him) with positive people, that don't need to be altered by a chemical to have fun, or escape reality. Good luck, oh and try to make friends with mom, make sure she understand you want him better too, and are going to do your very best to make sure he stays clean when he gets out.
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By: Island Girl

Island Girl — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:37:59 +0000

There is nothing you can do. His mother has all the rights to decide for him, you are not family. If he is deemed unable to make his own sound decisions then it goes to his parents to make them for him. Sorry girl, but you will just have to wait it out. Good luck to you both.
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By: Scarface

Scarface — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:15:59 +0000

ok sometimes people who drink a lot. And smoke marijuana. Their bodies get sick of all the things hes putting into his system. So the body says "thats Enough!" If it is related to the Alcohal, and you said he was out partyen all night? Then he should get over it. Sometimes the body just needs a break u know. I didn't read the whole thing but, now marijuana kills your brain cells right. It can make you see things. If he smoked way to much you can get freally sick. So IDK just wait, be patient and see how thuings turn out. Im really sorry.
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By: clear clutter

clear clutter — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 21:51:59 +0000

clarify this first please,,, when you say he smokes you mean he smokes pot, right…cause we don’t know smoking as that we usually think when a person smokes it means cigerettes…so what is he smoking & if you mean pot I suggest you are clear about that for now on…I will check back once to see the answer to that cause that makes all the difference in my answer.EDIT: I disagree with the person who told you to camp out, you will be seen as a problem if you do that…also I disagree with the person who told you to find out if he is on other drugs,,,people on other drugs don’t admit to it so easily. part of that is lying…it sounds like you to have a great relationship & are both caring & intellegent people. You are of a ver clear mind….If he is smoking pot everyday he is a drug addict. I know he might be the most wonderful person in the world but he has to do what others addicts do & go through recovery to stop using. Even if he is using alcohol that is a drug too. So he has got to learn how to deal with his feelings & not bottle them up as he has been doing before. You have to get on your own path so you can learn to cope with it all. Right now you lession is going to be in patience. His mother might have her own issues. But to think of her son getting married after the stress of being sick may have made her crazy. Even though he didn’t elope. The thought scared her. So don’t take it personally she is having a hard time right now too. I agree with Scareface (below). hopefully he will recover after he gets out & will be fine. I hope they don’t put him on meds.
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By: Geri H

Geri H — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 21:12:59 +0000

i think they have to keep him on a 72 hour hold but then should let him go, i dont know whats wrong with him but it sure sounds like the symptoms of being on meth, talk to him and tell him to be honest with you im pretty sure he is doing more then weed and alcohol
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By: Kael M

Kael M — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 21:07:59 +0000

No idea, the mom sounds like a whack job.
He sounds like he has some kind of mental illness, chemically induced or not. People get like they when they take hard drugs and go on a bender, but he really needs a job. It seems odd that he can smoke weed everyday and drink for a week and a half straight and be unemployed, are you sure he doesn’t do more than weed?
Tell him to do whatever the doctors say, if you freak out or refuse they will hold you longer.
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I knew a guy in highschool that went on god knows what and flipped out at school, they threw him into the looney bin for a few months because he wouldnt cooperate.

By: Don S

Don S — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:24:59 +0000

First of all do you have any legal rights with him ie are you common law, been living together for whatever your state recognizes as legal otherwise I am afraid his mother may be the only one who has any standing as far as the hospital is concerned. Try to camp out and corner what ever physician has taken responsibility and talk to them, or wait until he is finally released and stay far away from mom.
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By: chris

chris — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:05:59 +0000

i recommend that you call one of your friends round to stay the night (same sex as you obviously) just sit and have a nice chat with them while having something that you enjoy to drink (i dont recommend alcohol as it can get you into a bad situation) also make sure you get plenty of sleep it will always help
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By: have a dog biscuit

have a dog biscuit — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 19:27:59 +0000

no one is going to read all that
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